I know why you are here. You are absolutely DONE with anxiety and want to FINALLY take control over it and stop letting the emotions take over.
And just like you I was once in your situation.
I used to let anxiety reach a crippling state where I end up sitting on my bed drowning in my own tears due to stress and uncertainty. But, thankfully there is hope. Keep reading.
What is Anxiety?
For a lack of better words, anxiety is a bitch.
The official definition of anxiety is:
A feeling of worry, nervousness, or unease, typically about an imminent event or something with an uncertain outcome.
Look, anxiety is normal, and we all deal with it on a daily basis. However, it can go unmanaged and it can be overwhelming.
You might panic, get overwhelmed, experience shortness of breath, or stress.
High levels of anxiety can also lead to severe panic attacks. (and those are NEVER fun)
As a young entrepreneur I deal with anxiety on a daily basis,
I constantly worry about my business
I constantly doubt myself
And I wonder if what I am doing is enough..
These turbulent negative thoughts constantly race through my head.
And sometimes they get so bad that I end up not doing anything.
But that is normal. It is okay. Without anxiety I don't think I would ever be successful. You see I believe that a healthy dose of anxiety is necessary for growth. However, never let your anxiety control you.
Why do we experience Anxiety?
There is no one answer to this question because it depends from person to person.
Personally, I experience anxiety when I am short on money or my finances are not where I want them to be.
I also experience anxiety when I am doing a big project.
Or when I am in a public crowded space.
At the gym,
At the mall,
At the grocery store,
At a concert,
And pretty much everywhere I go. Even If I am alone in my room, I experience anxiety.
I am currently experiencing anxiety as I am writing this. Will you like it? Will you hate it? Will you make fun of me for being weird?
It gets frustrating. But thankfully I have found something that helps me manage my anxiety and In hopes of helping you I am sharing my story and how I deal with MY anxiety.
Without any further a do. Let's get to the practical ways I use my mind to manage my anxiety. Keep reading!
How To deal with anxiety:
I could tell you to stop being a baby and grow up but I know that babies probably experience less anxiety than adults.
So, Instead I will teach you a method that I have been using for the past couple of months to help me control my negative thoughts.
Take one big gulp of air straight to the lungs. And I don't want you to just read over this and not do it. Fucking do it. Breath. INNNNNNNNNNNNNNNN, outttttttttttt.
Congratulations, you have taken the first steps to dealing with your anxiety and you might feel better already. But we are far from done.
Be mindful of your breathing. I want you to breathe with intention. I want you to imagine a wave of air (imagine a cool blue breeze) slowly making its way down to your lungs.
Filling them up, cleaning them up, and leaving it fresh and relaxed.
Move to your heart, feel your heart being filled with that rich oxygen taking every bit of it in before distributing it to your entire body.
That oxygen reaches the furthest point in your body and fills up each follicle in your scalp.
Yes my young grasshopper, you are now a breathing machine. You always have been and always will be until the day you die.
Bonus tip: Don’t half ass your breathing.
Breath like your fucking life depends on it, because quite frankly it does, and sometimes we can take our breathing for granted because we do it all the time without EVEN thinking about it. Crazy right?
(Are you holding your breath again?)
Relax… Everything will be ok. Just, breath.
#2: Be mindful.
Stop. Do you hear that..?
Do you feel it?
What is that feeling that I am hearing in my head right now?
Ahh, I see it’s another negative thought… interesting (explore with curiosity)
Woah what is it doing?
Where does it want to take me?
What emotions is it provoking?
Hmmm. I find it quite interesting that my mind can make up these thoughts but I choose not to let it take control. I appreciate it, and It is a part of who I am, but I will not allow it to be anymore than just a thought :)
Welcome! You have just made it to the end of our little mindfulness exercise. How does it work you may ask?
Allow me to explain.
Your brain is a thought making machine. It constantly, and I mean constantly bestows thoughts to fuck with you?
Ha, you tricky brain. I will not fall for your foolish games!
The brain is kind of cute if you really think about it. Treat it as you would treat a kid.
Better yet “Treat yourself like someone you are responsible for helping” -Jordan Peterson
Don’t judge yourself or your thoughts.
I want you to just simply observe them.
Your brain has 2 parts. 1 part is telling you you're ugly, and the other part is either arguing or accepting.
That is what is called the Inflictor and the thinker
Inflictor: That part of your brain that inflicts thoughts
Thinker: The part of your brain that is thinking about those inflicted thoughts
Which one am I? You ask.
The answer is neither! You are not the inflictor nor the thinker. You are the observer. The kind compassionate observer who sees and does not judge, the observer who is kind to himself and his brain.
#3 The pledge
I am so proud that you have made it this far :’) Look at you! Taking your mental health as a priority! I have a reward for you for making it here.
Music I like to listen to when I feel Anxious:
I like this kind of music because It is extremely relaxing and helps me detach from my negative thoughts and it actually evokes good emotions.
You are well on your way to taking control of your anxiety! We only have one more thing to do. That is to start recognizing these patterns. Because If we do not learn from our mistakes this article is useless.
As Einstein once said “The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result.”
And my friend we do not want to go insane. So listen close, listen carefully and listen up!
Anxiety is a recurring theme in our life. We experience it on a daily basis and let it control our emotions.
But no longer.
(Say it with me)
From now on!
I will no longer let anxiety alter my state, I will no longer feed the negative thoughts and let them bring me down. I am not my thoughts nor am I the one to judge them. I am simply the observer. I will observe my thoughts with kindness, compassion, and curiosity.
You did it.
And my job here is done.
Till next time.
Peace, love, and positivity.
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